You Can Love And Still Leave Without Hurting

Next to "no one is ever one thing", another English phrase m likeri ọfụma bụ "two things can be true at the same time". Mmadụ ga-abụnwu a tender person, ma bụrụkwa a no-nonsense person. Your uncle jụrụ isendiri gị ego, ga enwewu ego ma nwekwaa too much responsibilities and mkpa o kwesịrị igbo. You can be a horrible person ma bụrụkwa a victim of horrible treatment. Lol.

But seriously, this post abụghị an indictment of you. I am sure that na ị bụ a wonderful person, at least I hope na ị bụ a wonderful person. This post however, bụ maka something else, maka ịhụnanya. Love. This post bụ maka how love does not mean utter senselessness. I want to make a disclaimer that na enweghị m a straitjacket summary of what love is or what it is not. But I know how I have felt it. And how ndị hugoro mụ na anya the right way show it.

Some people believe that before mmadụ asị that their love is true and deep, then that person kwesịrị ịhurt really bad when the love is no more. I disagree with this assertion. Love can be deep, too deep that na ọ ga-adị impossible to imagine ndụ the person when the love is no more. And yet, when said love bịara na njedebe, you will see the person get up, dust their backside and move on.

Basically I'm trying to say in as few words as possible na someone who wears their heart on their sleeve can decide not to allow said heart to be broken. Ọ dị possible that one can make a decision to love deeply and still decide that obi o ji alove ya bụ love is not up to the subject of the love to break it.

Something is true for me and I think na ọ bụkwa the reality for someone like Ugegbem, and that is that love bụ the nature of my heart. Love is all a heart really knows how to do. The brain nwe ike ịdị cold but obi a ma sọsọ the fire of love. 

When you become the subject of ịhụnanya dị n'obi a, you're only being offered an opportunity. Your loving back with as much fire is your way of proving na ịdị worthy of this opportunity. If you fail to come to the fire of love in this heart with your own fire, the opportunity will go to someone else. And when this opportunity is taken from you, it goes without regret. This is why our hearts can't be broken. Ọ bụghị na anyị adịghị alove deeply enough, but that na anyị enyego our hearts the agency to its eternal wholeness.

Love bụ the actions ịdị willing ịperfom in its name. It is not a feeling. It is the action that stays when the feeling is gone. The beautiful thing about actions is that a lot of decision-making goes into them. This is why you can decide to love. You can decide to love deeply. And you can decide to let go and not look back when you are done loving.

So yes, two things can be true at the same time. I could love you to the moon and back and still leave you without feeling shit about deciding to leave you.